Submission is a concept that is almost altogether lost in our society. If the idea is suggested and it involves people and civil government, it is oppression. If it involves people of different genders, it is sexism. If it involves people of different races, it is racism. If it involves parents and children, it is abuse. We could go on and on about the negative stereotypes that society has placed on the idea of submission. What does the Bible teach on this subject?
The Mantle of Motherhood
The first time the word mother appears in the Bible is in (Genesis 3:20). God made Adam, and then he took a rib from his side and made Eve. Since that time every man or woman has been brought into this world because of a mother. Throughout the Bible we read of mothers, both good and bad. A mother may choose to be many things, but there are none as great as a godly mother.
In the marital relationship a husband and wife are to portray to a lost and dying world the relational oneness that exists between Christ and His Church. Wives, you are to portray the Church in this relationship. The Bible says that the wife is to be subject to her husband the way that the Church is subject unto Christ. Wives, are you doing your part to portray this relationship to the world and bring glory and honor unto God?
There are some things a man simply must be before he is qualified to assume the role of a husband and father. Now this is not an exhaustive list by far, but there are four characteristics that a young man must possess in order to be suitable for a young woman. He must be a Christian, he must be committed to Biblical leadership, he must be a protector, and he must be a provider. A man who does not possess - or at least show signs of developing - these characteristics does not meet the basic job description laid down for husbands in the Bible.
It has been said that the woman is the heart of the home. Now if that is the case it raises a very important question for a young man to ask himself when looking for a wife. What kind of a heart do I want my home to have? This line of thinking will get a young man started down the right track, but it is our goal to introduce some additional thoughts from the Bible. As we do so we ask the question what should a young man look for in a young woman?
The Dating Game
God has called His people to be separate from the world. Through His word we learn a different way of life, a different way of looking at things. We are to be a distinct people in the way we act and think. The process that we use to select a husband or wife is no different. In this area too, we are to be different from the world. Unfortunately, more than any other area, the Church is becoming indistinguishable from the world when it comes to the process of selecting a mate. If we continue to follow the same pattern as the world we will suffer the same consequences.
Husbands should seriously consider the picture they are painting for a watching world. In your relationship with your wife, are you portraying Christ's love and leadership to the Church? If you are not, God expects you to. In fulfilling his role withing the home, a husband is to reflect Christ in His relationship with the Church. This is a high calling! When a husband fails in his role, he fails to represent the Lord's love for the Church. He mars the image of Christ in a way which his wife cannot because he is Christ's authority in the home.
Marriage by God's Design
The Bible emphatically teaches that God ordained marriage. Marriage did not originate with man. It is not something that a group of people just thought up one day and decided would be good for society. Nor is it something that can evolve or change as man desires. Marriage was put in place by God in the beginning.
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